Supporting Your Loved One Through The Infertility Journey

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Supporting Your Loved One Through The Infertility Journey

Remember my husband telling me that his childhood friend had good news?

We were trying to get pregnant at the time for several months and had gone through rounds of intrauterine sperm insemination (also known as IUI).

I was genuinely trying to give a nice reply, but instead, I sunk further into the bath, and my eyes filled with tears. I felt angry and nauseous and muttered “Great” but what I really wanted to say was “Why them, and not us?”

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I carried bitterness and resentment with me throughout the years of struggle we had to have a child.

It turns out that we were in a similar boat to millions of other people around the world.

CNN previously reported that infertility affects 1 in 6. According to a WHO report, the rates of infertility – defined as the inability to get pregnant after 12 months without protection – are the same in all countries and areas.

During my fertility treatments for our first child Leo, I kept the fertility treatments secret from family and friends. I didn’t wish to answer any questions or disappoint anyone if the treatments didn’t work.

It was hard to hide my despair. During my first round of IVF or in vitro fertilization, I saw a psychologist. It was an emotional storm. I don’t know if it was the fertility drugs in large quantities, the daily injections, or the months of unsuccessful treatments. I needed to know that my feelings were normal.

My grief wasn’t the only one

Many people share this feeling. Receiving a psychiatric diagnosis, most commonly anxiety or depression, is something up to 40% of women affected by infertility face, according to the There are long waiting times for appointments or service providers. The waiting to receive test results, to hear that something worked, to wait for the next steps. “All that waiting can put us in an unideal mental space”, psychologist Dr. Heather Tahler spoke to CNN. She is the lead mental health services at the women and family telemedicine startup Maven Clinic, located in New York City.

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I think that another major stressor is the pressure from society to build a family in a particular way. We don’t discuss enough the many different ways people build families.

Grill stated that “the research shows the distress levels experienced by those who are experiencing infertility is equal to that of patients with cancer, heart disease, and HIV.”

When my husband and I first began tracking my ovulation, good old-fashioned sex wasn’t working, I would talk to friends and family members who would brush aside my worries. They told me the key to getting pregnant was to lower your stress levels.

After my husband and I began tracking my ovulation, and good old-fashioned sex didn’t work, I talked to my friends and family, who told me to put my worries aside, and that the key to getting pregnant was to reduce my stress. “Just have a drink of wine before you have sex,” said one friend. A relative suggested that you go on a vacation. Although they were trying to help, it hurt.

In order to find out what others could benefit from, I asked several people what they would do or not do to support a loved one going through infertility.

Listen instead of giving advice

Grace Bastidas is the editor-in-chief of Parents. She advises parents to talk less and listen more. She covers infertility regularly and published an article about how to support people who are going through it.

Bastidas advised against minimizing the difficulty of conceiving by telling a friend, or relative, to “just relax.”

She said, “It doesn’t validate what they are feeling at the time.” If you don’t have anything to say, you can always listen and be that ear or shoulder. Let them know that they can rely on you.

Do not be offended if your loved ones decline to attend.

For more than a full year, it was very hard for me to be happy when someone became pregnant. I would get invited to baby showers but dread going. When I saw pregnant women at the grocery checkout, I felt pangs.

I felt as if every woman in the world was pregnant except for me.

Elizabeth Angell is the editor-in-chief of Romper a website for moms in their twenties. advises people to not hide happy news, but instead have grace and understand those around them who may be struggling.

These women’s IVF journeys didn’t end with births. These women have a lot to say.

Infertile couples can find it difficult to navigate events like baby showers or christenings. “I would take my cues from these women,” said Angell. She has a Romper section dedicated to those who are trying to conceive.

You should invite all your friends but do not be offended when they decide to stay away. This doesn’t mean that they’re not happy for you. “Give them space to grieve, and let them know that you are there to listen when they want to discuss it.”

Support your loved ones by doing specific things

Grill said that taking your loved one to a doctor’s appointment or sending them a small present can make a big difference.

Grill suggested that if the person you’re trying to help is open to new ideas, you should think about what you would do if a friend was diagnosed with another illness. She said, “Call them or send a text asking how they’re doing. Bring them dinner and offer to drive them to their appointments.

Research shows that a woman’s life can be extended by increasing her fertility.

Let them know that you care about them and love them. Listen, show support and trust rather than give advice. “Most importantly, validate the experience of those who are suffering and learn to sit alongside them as they feel their pain.”

Angell also agreed. “Infertility treatment is often physically demanding. Send food, a bathrobe, or pajamas to your friend if that is what they are going through.

Do not ask them if they’re trying to get pregnant

Grill told CNN that “as innocent as they may seem, questions of curiosity can cause anxiety and devastation for women who are trying to conceive.”

Nora DeBora hosts the Ultimate Pregnancy Prep podcast. She has been very open about her desire to have a family.

Women put a lot of stress on themselves, and they feel like their biological clock ticks with every passing year.

You may think your loved ones want to share, but they won’t

You might give your loved one tissues some days, but they may be closed to you on others.

Thaler explained that being present with someone means meeting them right where they are. Some days, it may be a simple hug. On other days, it might be a conversation. Every day, there are many different emotional reactions. You should remind yourself so that you don’t get hurt.

Since my husband and I began to share our story in 2018, it has felt liberating yet at times incredibly vulnerable.

Andrea Syrtash told me recently that infertility stigma is still prevalent. She is driven to tell the stories of those who have gone to great lengths to start their families, and how this has affected their relationships.

She told me that the narrative “First love, then marriage, and then a baby carriage” is outdated for millions of people.

Modern family building and infertility affect every relationship that we have. We have relationships with our partners, our friends, our family, our workplace, and, most importantly, our relationship with ourselves and our bodies.

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